Each year, there are many children that suffer through the consequences of divorce of their parents.
Divorce causes imparable harm to those who are involved, this situation has a greater impact on the children rather than it does on the adults. Effects of divorce can also cause a temporary decrease in a child’s quality of life from which they might never fully recover from. Divorce damages the society we live in, not only socially but also economically. It generously builds cost to the taxpayer, while lessening the taxpaying of society. Socially, it lessens children’s future in each of the five of society’s foundations: family, school, religion, commercial center; market place and government. Just a couple of ages back, American culture considered divorce as taboo, something that was unheard of. Parent-child bonds are one of the most cherished bonds there is, it involves trust, love, care and affection. When a family struggles with a divorce, naturally it weakens the relationships within a family and affects the bond between the parents and children.
Divorce leads to destructive conflict management methods. Destructive conflict management is when two individuals meet up to rethink or reinforce their relationship for a more prominent benefit, but it mostly ends up producing negative outcomes . Professor Paul Amato who teaches sociology at Penn State University, wrote a book in which he states that, “parent separation leads to disruptions in the parent-child relationship, and continuing discord between former spouses, loss of emotional support, economic hardship, and an increase in the number of other negative life events” (Amato.) The impact of divorce on children is very severe, it affects their mind, their emotions, and their basic capability of reasoning. Divorces changes the way kids think about things, their perspective becomes completely different and has changed from before.
It negatively influences the way they feel about themselves and their environment. Divorce can cause children to have emotions, such as bitterness, self-loathing and betrayal. Moreover, children can go through having stress, feelings of abandonment, and low self esteem. Although these are common feelings that many children who go through divorce experience, not all these things are applied to every child. There is never a clear cut way to tell how affected a child may be and or to what extent.
There is no examination or mandatory symptoms that can help understand how much a child is affected. Children can only be observed, and from their actions, performance in school and behavior an assumption can be made about the impact of divorce on a child. Coming from a family that has experienced divorce, kids have limited amounts of: emotional support from others, regular help from their parents, and financial support. Children from homes that experienced divorce have a decline in language stimulation, affection, and academic behavior.
Although according to some studies, parental divorce may not affect how parents treat their kids. However in most cases, single parenting often leads to exhaustion and much more stress regarding child care, jobs and bill payments. These factors amalgamated begin to affect the one parents and how much control they have over their child. Although studies have shown that parental divorce does not affect the way parents treat their kids. Constant stress and exhaustion can influence the parents to adapt not caring and more overprotective demeanor while parenting parenting during young years of the child.