“Inorder to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everythingin his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacksthe credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries tomake sure no one listens” (Herman 1992). The actual definition of molestationis to make indecent sexual advances, and/or sexually assault (Dictionary.com).
Thisis an example how young girls get silenced in their childhood by the predators.Psychologically, the damage from the traumatic experience from molestation in awoman’s childhood can lead to short to long term effects. In the transition from child hood to a youngadult some females have trouble creating bond and trusting those of theopposite sex. Young teenage girls transitioning into women may face socialproblems within the workforce, community and personal relationships. The seedof fear has been planted into their souls and has developed mistrust of theopposite sex. Depending on the individual, freedom may not be attainable.
“I decided it is betterto scream. Silence is the real crime against humanity” (Mandelstam1970).Silence is the deadliest killer to molestation victims, while it mentallycripples its sufferer also destroys self-worth and esteem. The shame, theinternal embarrassment of feeling unclean, this feeling lingers and cages itsvictim. Harboring emotions, taking responsibilityfor something they could not control. The weight of the world on theirshoulders because a predator, could not control the urge to fornicate. Thepredator Silences a woman that has been tortured mentally, physically,emotionally and spiritually. The phases of denial, shock and self-afflictionall rely on silence.
Think of silence as an ocean, you’re drowning in it asyour fears; shame, resentment and doubt pull you to bottom. The internal agony likea beast raging within, as if there is no hope of help is where isolationbecomes present. “No matter how long youtrain someone to be brave, you never know if they are or not until somethingreal happens” (Roth 2012). Molestation is an experience that forever changesthe lives of young girls to grown women. Sexshould always be consensual and enjoyable to both parties. The act is inhumane,wicked, impure and violating to the individual being inflicted by the perpetrator.The predator preys on the weak, disabled, innocent and meek.
The predator takes controls of the dynamics of thesituation, perceiving him or her to be superior. The act itself is not thegoal, it’s the power attained from the act. The victim, the young girl orwoman, she is mentally, psychically and emotionally ravaged during the act.
Heravages her self-worth, self-esteem, self-assurance and innocence in everyforcible movement or touch. My own personal experience as a molestation victim,the act itself took away my happiness, locked my soul within my body, smotheredmy cries and screams and eventually made everything or one a threat. Beingbrave enough to come out to a family member was the hardest thing I’ve everaccomplished but the relief of the predator being punished for the vile act.
Transitioning ingeneral is quite the challenge as a teenager to young adult, especially forgirls. Becoming a young woman has its pros and cons, such as body image, bodychanges, personality development, confidence, self-esteem and raging hormones allat once. Young women who have been sexually abused in their childhood mostlikely turn to alcohol and drugs to “fix” the emotional trauma. Drugs andalcohol are just temporary bandages that solve the current problem for a shorttime span, addiction starts here. The continuous cycle of “fixes” capture youngwomen struggling with emotional scars and turn them into addicts. Rebellion isanother major mile stone in transitioning from childhood to adulthood. Beingrebellious is just a cry for help, the need for emotional healing and socialacceptance is vital at this time.
Some molestation victims may turn to the samesex for companionship; “Anti-men” mentality has been formed. This mentality isthe utter rejection of men or males, seeking sexual satisfaction andcompanionship in other women.”The question is nothow to get cured, but how to live (1480 Conrad).
” Recovering from a psychicalwound may be an easy thing to recover from but an emotionally damaged mentalwound that only cut deeper day by day isn’t an overnight recovery. Some women havelost years of opportunity to live their lives due to sexual abuse. Violatingyoung women during their childhood has ripped their innocence. Some women haverecovered over years by spiritual works, distracting themselves with work and othershaving multiple sexual partners. The endless searching for “Healing” has becometheir purpose of life itself. Therapy is a major breakthrough, talking orexpressing emotions about sexual abuse helps the person to accept what has happenedand how to move on. Snapping back to normal isn’t realistic, abnormal becominga reality? Paralyzing trauma which enslaves young women as their life progresses.
In conclusion, molestationis a method of overpowering women, rewiring the psychological, emotional,behavioral and spiritual perception. Silence, transitioning from childhood to adulthood,traumatic experience and recovery are stepping stones of the journey for allmolestation victims whether it is female or male. Having personal experience withmolestation has shaped the person I am and has mentally damaged/weakened mewith an emotional disability. The “voyage of healing” for me has been a lifechanging, restoring freedom from my rapist and recovering from deep embedded emotionalwounds. Futuristic problems are going to fall through if women or young girls don’tbreak the silence and stand up for their freedom of psychological enslavement.
Ifsituations keep occurring women will find themselves overstepping the brink ofinsanity and the cycle will destroy generations of young women psychologically. “Expose yourself to your deepest fear;after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes.You are free (Morrison1943).”