In any encyclopediaof modern ballet, the name of the dancer Marta Graham will stand in a place ofhonor. It can be called revolutionary. Graham’s dance school and its techniquebecame the basis for modern choreography and influenced the development ofballet all over the world. Agnes de Mille (dancer and choreographer) metMart Graham after her success of musical show ‘Oklahoma’.
She thought that thiswork was average as compare to her previous work, but she got success from theaverage work. Agnes de Mille talked toGraham about this and she said-She taught her that it’s not your job tojudge your work; your job is to create and share. Comparing ourselves with other people is our habit. It was fixed in us fromchildhood. In kindergarten and in the school, teachers set the example ofthe best boys and girls. Parents expected us to be no worse than the bestin the group, school, and college.
We were always compared with ourneighbors, with relatives, close friends.Comparison links to dependency onothersWhen we begin to compare ourselves, what we comparebecomes dependent on how we evaluate and perceive others around us. If in the showroom the manager sellscars more than all others, for example 100 cars per month, he experiences anemotional rise and pride in himself. In the salon a newcomer is set towork, which starts selling 110 cars a month.
And although the firstmanager sells the same 100 machines a month, as before, he blames himself fornot being able to do anything in this life, his self-esteem falls, and hebegins to envy the newcomer. Comparison only creates a false sense ofimportance, and it is better to avoid it.Be yourself!The first thing you need to do to stop comparing yourself toothers is to love yourself as you are.
You may think that you areimperfect, but that’s what makes us human. Falling in love with yourself,you will love your life. You will find inner peace and tranquility,accepting yourself with all your shortcomings.Being yourself does not meanliving in a shell without sticking out into the outside world, and being unableto improve your life. To be yourself is to set achievable goals for yourselfand go to them.