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are different kinds of abuse among women. Most common is intimate
partner violence also known as domestic violence. This kind of abuse is physical, sexual, emotional abuse, by
an intimate partner. Women of domestic abuse often go back to their abuser
because of fear of their safety and the safety of their children or
family.  Some women are financially dependent on their abuser to support them,
while others return to their abuser because it is a cycle. Emotional abuse can
go on without the victim even knowing they are being manipulated and controlled.
Women who are sexually abused or harassed live in fear and most times remain
quiet. Human trafficking is a form of abuse that women are sold into without
their consent. These women are forced into a cycle of intimidation, humiliation
or feel powerless. They are afraid and have no hope of breaking the cycle. They
need safety outlets to go to, support groups or organizations to teach them how
to make it on their own and that abusive behavior is not acceptable for anyone.

            Any
kind of abuse is traumatic, and it affects people in many ways. However, forms
of abuse are traumatizing because the victim is left with bruises on the inside
and the outside. Victims form a bond with their abuser physically, emotionally,
sexually, and economically. The consequences of having this bond broken by
abuse are deep and extensive physically and emotionally. Some women’s trauma can
result in physical and psychological disorders that can have long-term effects.
Aldridge states, “Twenty-three out of the 35 mothers interviewed for the
study disclosed abuse and talked, without being asked, about their experiences
of domestic violence. These women also said that they believed their mental
health problems had been triggered by past sexual, physical and/or emotional
abuse from their former partners” (3). The more abuse women encounter the
greater the psychological disorders are formed. Their mental status and
self-esteem are affected by the degree of abuse they have experienced. A woman
who stays in an abusive relationship is more likely to endure mental abuse that
can lead to depression, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, post-traumatic stress
disorder, and common mental health problems. Women who already have mental
health problems are more likely to be in the abusive relationship than women
without these issues. Females who are abused as children tend to grow up and
date or marry men who are abusive. The effects of the abuse that happens during
and after the relationship have well
ended. Victims may never be able to get over the effects of abuse and they can
carry it on to other relationships that will be dysfunctional. According to the
Mental Health Weekly Digest,
“The influence of abuse can persist long after the violence has stopped,
and women of color are disproportionately impacted” (Violence Against
Women 40). This research shows that after the violence there is still long-term
effects from it.

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            Emotionally abused women are intimidated, controlled, and
feared by their abuser. Most women are not even aware that the abuse is taking
place. Women are isolated in their own homes and their abusers are “gaslighting” them, to maintain power and
control over them. Abuser likes to “gaslight”
because it makes the victim feel like they are losing their minds and can’t
remember anything. This kind of abuse has a long-lasting effect on the victim’s
life physically and mentally. Male abusers like to criticize the victim and
make her feel unworthy. They are also jealous and possessive of the victim, constantly accusing her of infidelity. If
they have children together, the male would use the children as pawns to get
what he wants from the victim. He can control her with money, by telling her
how much she is allowed and what it can be spent on. It is manipulating the
victim’s emotions, so the abuser can stay in control over them. According to Mental Health Weekly Digest, “Data
were collected from a community-based IPV intervention program. Logistic
regression found an increased likelihood of depression for respondents who
experienced emotional abuse more than once per week and were worried about
contact by the abuser” (Depression in Women 115). Emotional abuse is not easily
reported and hard to prove, that many women will wrongly endure it. It is hard
to prove because the bruises are not visible marks on the outside of the body.
The bruises are psychological. This type
of abuse can start as emotional and then continue into physical and sexual
abuse. Emotional abuse is where the abuser likes to start to see how far they
can go and how much the victim is willing to accept. If an abuser knows that he
can control his victim emotionally then there is not a reason to stop there.

            According
to Wood, “The American Bar Association reports that approximately 1.3
million women and 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner
every year in the United States. Survivors of domestic violence often do not
leave their abusers initially, and the reasons they stay in the relationship
vary drastically” (263). It is very hard for women to leave the life they have
known. They do not know if they can survive. Woods continues to explain, “Some
of the most common reasons that survivors remain are lack of resources and
information about escape, continuing love and hope that their abusers will
change, community pressure, mental health problems, fear of both non-violent
and violent retribution, and lack
financial resources resulting in dependence on the abuser” (263). Domestic
and intimate partner violence does not discriminate against anyone. The abuse
happens in all class, nationality, age, sex, or religion. Women who are a
victim of this kind of violence suffer in silence and in secret of their own
homes. A home is a place where women and children should feel safe and secure
but for the victim and her children, it is more like a nightmare. The abuse has
a pattern of assaulting and controlling behavior. It may seem minor at first
but as time goes on it becomes more frequent and severity of the abuse become
intense, that the women are in fear for her life. The emotional and
psychological abuse become more damaging than the physical assaults. Rosenberg
stated, “In total, 1,007 males aged 15-19 living in disadvantaged neighborhoods
in the four study cities were asked about their past-year perpetration of
physical IPV (defined as having pushed, slapped or thrown something at a
partner; dragged or beaten a partner; choked, kicked, shoved or burned a
partner on purpose; or used or threatened to use a weapon on a partner) or
sexual IPV (defined as physically forcing a partner to have intercourse, or
pressuring a partner to have unwanted intercourse or insisting that a partner
do so)” (228). Young girls and women are likely to use drugs or alcohol to cope
with the abuse. It can cause women to have severe depression or worse they will
commit suicide. Abuser that have guns in the house are more like to murder
their victims than homes without weapons.

            According
to The New York Times, “Nearly
one in five women surveyed said they had been raped or had experienced an
attempted rape at some point, and one in four reported having been beaten by an
intimate partner. One in six women has been stalked, according to the report a
vast majority of women who said they had been victims of sexual violence, rape
or stalking reported symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, as did about
one-third of the men” (Rabin A32). These types of an assault are more likely to
be from someone the victim has a rapport with and feel like they can trust. After
the assault, the victim’s body goes through traumatic shock.    Rabin
also stated, “Women who had experienced such violence were also more likely to
report having asthma, diabetes or irritable bowel syndrome than women who had
not. Both men and women who had been assaulted were more likely to report
frequent headaches, chronic pain, difficulty sleeping, limitations on activity,
and poor physical and mental health” (A32). Female college students are
more likely to experience some sort of sexual abuse while incapacitated from
alcohol or drugs. A victim of incapacitated rape is too intoxicated to give
consent to sex and no force is used because the victim is unable to resist.
Most rape occurs between friends much more often than it does between strangers.
While some men do not see women as equals, they see women’s sexuality as their worth and are more likely violate a woman
sexually. CNN wire explains,
“Society needs to establish a zero tolerance for sexual violence. Instead
of saying, ‘don’t get raped,’ which shifts the responsibility onto a potential
victim, the message should be ‘don’t rape’ and focus on holding perpetrators
accountable” (How to prevent rape).

            Human trafficking is believed to be the third-largest
criminal activity in the world. It is a violation of women’s civil rights,
self-integrity, and a form of prostitution and slavery. Men are using women’s
bodies as a disposable commodity. They are brought for their organs, forced
into marriages, sexual exploitation, labor, and sex. With
little to no money, beaten, and starved they are forced to perform any labor or
service in inhumane environments. Zaharia stated, “Measures should be
adopted to afford victims of trafficking the opportunity to cooperate
effectively and safely with law enforcement officials. They should include
stays of deportation; exempting trafficked persons from detention and
prosecution for offences directly relating to their trafficking; giving them
the opportunity to seek justice and compensation for abuses they have suffered;
guaranteeing their personal safety and the safety of their family members;
facilitating their safe and humane repatriation; and offering alternatives if
such repatriation is not possible, including third country resettlement” (171).
Women should have the right to fight back and seek justice and compensation. So
many women are afraid for their lives or just want to escape the abuse, they
will not prosecute their attackers. Zaharia also stated, “Unless governments
and law enforcement agencies are prepared to combat trafficking with increased
vigor and, at the same time, prepared to provide adequate protection to the
victims of trafficking, the majority of trafficking cases will continue to go
undiscovered” (171).

            Not only are women being abused in their own homes but at
their school or workplace too. Sexual harassment affects your job or education
by interfering with your work or school
performance. Sexual harassment can be verbal, physical, and visual.  The
Washington Post states, “One-third of women say that they had experienced
sexual advances from a male coworker or a man who had influence over their job,
and one-third of this group of women say their male coworker’s behavior
constituted sexual abuse. About 8 in 10 women who experienced unwanted advances
involving work considered it sexual harassment, while over 3 in 10 considered
it sexual abuse” (Gibson and Guskin). While many women are in fear of losing
their jobs, retaliation, or no one will believe them, many cases go unreported. Keller states, “Sexual harassment in
American work life is affecting as many as 80 percents
of women in certain sectors, according to one study. But most women don’t stand
a chance of winning a lawsuit. There seems little doubt that sexual harassment
in the workplace persists and has measurable and immeasurable impacts on those
who are victimized by this form of discrimination and on their employers” (247).
Women that do have the courage to report it, not always win their case. There
are forced to go back to face their abuser and are subject to more attacks in a
hostile environment. Victims feel isolated, ashamed, and must quit school or
resign from their job. Their trust in the justice system is broken and is never
repaired. They are left feeling weak and defeated for something they had no
control over.

            Every woman has the right to live a safe and free of
violence life. No woman should have her human rights taken away from her or
violated by any form of abuse. To end violence against women it starts by more
gender equal opportunities in all parts of society. The government should
strengthen laws, give longer sentences, and give communities grants for women of
abuse to have access to a better education, help them to find jobs, affordable
housing, healthcare, and childcare. No women deserve to be abused, by educating
young women on what healthy relationships are and building up their confidence
and self-esteem, stops the cycle. Women need outlets to go to like shelters,
women organizations, victim counseling, and trained professional advocates at
no cost or obligations. Victims need to feel that the authorities believe them,
sympathize, and will ask the appropriate questions to make an arrest. When
asked “What were you wearing” or “How much did you have to drink”, is putting
the blame on the victim and making them feel as if they did something wrong. As
a community, everyone needs to educate
and learn what the signs and symptoms are of someone being abused and what to
do to help. We need to learn tactics and strategies on how to safely intervene
or make a distraction to give the person endanger time to get away. If the victim is afraid to talk, earn
their trust by being consistent, understanding and supporting them. By stepping
up to the plate and acknowledging someone is in a crisis can make a difference
in someone else’s life. By teaching children at an early age of what
appropriate and inappropriate behaviors are, they can understand the need to
speak up when they see something wrong. Children need to be taught to tell an
adult they trust if someone acts inappropriately to them. Young children
knowing the “golden rule” and how to respect authority and adults is where
society will break the cycle of abuse. The cycle of abuse stops now by being an
example for others, speaking out against violence, not looking away but by
asking questions. Abuse against women can stop if we change the mindset of the
men that find no value in women.